I love nothing more than travelling and as a part time traveller I can usually plan my trips around major events and occasions (and to be honest I hate missing out on fun stuff). With my holiday days being quite flexible I am able to take days off to attend mid week celebrations, spend long weekends with my friends and generally get a day off should something pop up suddenly that I simply cannot miss. Mr ESLT on the other hand gets set holiday days and over the years he has, unfortunately missed a number of parties, gatherings and shindigs! As we normally book trips months, sometimes up to a year in advance I am actually surprised that the following has never happened to me before:-
Today I am missing one of my best friend’s weddings!!!
I could cry and I’m sure by the end of the day I actually will have done because instead of spending the day weeping at how beautiful she looks, eating great food, drinking (too much) fizz and dancing the night away with friends – I am instead sat in a flying tin can hurtling through the sky, thousands of feet in the air for over 17 hours heading to Bali. Yes, Bali – which I’m sure will be absolutely fantastically beautiful and amazing. Everyday I remind myself that I am very lucky to have the opportunity to visit. I can’t wait to land and start exploring the beautiful country that I have spent hours researching and nights dreaming about. In fact it is number 1 on my Bucket List!
We booked our flights for this trip back in February after checking that we had no social engagements to attend first – we didn’t. Then in May one of my best friends told me that she had booked her wedding. I was so happy for her and couldn’t wait to share her special day, especially because she had wanted to get married for so long. That’s why when she told me the date it felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I couldn’t believe I couldn’t be there.
I’m sure full time travellers/digital nomads have to suffer this on a regular basis, unless they have the funds to fly backwards and forwards around the world for every special occasion and I really feel for them. Travel is wonderful and a luxury not everyone has the chance to undertake – kudos for living the dream. But by missing this very important occasion it has reaffirmed that I could never travel full time. No matter how many wonderful things I could see and experience whilst trekking the globe none stop my friends and family mean so much too me. It would break my heart over and over not being their for them when needed or to witness their important days.
We did try and change our flights so we could attend the wedding and fly out the day after instead. Unfortunately, the airline could not be flexible with our booking and we simply could not justify the cost of changing flights. The rubbish factor is heightened by the fact that I hate flying – HATE IT! And I’m sure the flight will drag even more knowing of the fun times occurring back home. We do have a 4 hour lay over in Hong Kong where I will be switching my phone on the second I am allowed to, to see the beautiful bride in her beautiful dress and lots of happy smiling faces.
So as we sit on this metal bird flying over who knows where, Mr ESLT and I will charge our glasses and toast health, wealth, love and happiness to two very lovely people, we’re sorry we can’t be there – Mr & Mrs G!!!!